Trust is the most foundational block of any relationship. Trust is involved in all the basic elements of a healthy relationship: namely, love (respect and consideration for another person), communication, commitment and honesty. Without trust you may get feelings, you may get the high of the “moment,” you may get patience and tolerance but nothing will provide the strength and the solidity you need for a lasting relationship as trust. Why? Because the root of trust is WHAT YOU BELIEVE about the other person. And your BELIEF about the other person is the accumulation of experiences that have either affirmed or corroded the original commitment or promise. And let me hasten to say that TRUST is not just about big promises and commitments. It could just be the other person’s body language, the eyes or an air of authenticity. Have you ever felt like you are in the presence of a person for the first time and you find yourself saying “Somehow I trust this person with my tummy?” Trust is born in the way the other person register in our TRUST radar. Finally what you come to believe about another person is what directs your behavior and actions towards that person. So, trust is critical to the dynamics of any relationship, whether is a business, politics, a working environment, marriage, family or friendships.

When you have believed something about a person and that person has broken your “trust” in that belief, there isn’t a whole lot left.

Take marriage for example. The promise to stay married until “death do, us apart” is a serious promise. You trust that person. Would you marry if you wouldn’t trust? When divorce happens, what makes you think that the person who broke the promise with you is trustworthy of anything else later on? The tacit promise parents make to raise their children to the best of their ability when they bring them into the world is a serious one. What makes you think children will trust you as a parent, when you did not do your best to absorb information about good parenting and depended on God to be a good role model to them? Cheating, lying, gossip, “backstabbing,” disloyalty, miscommunication or the lack of it, dishonesty, not paying money back, not being on time, an unreturned to call, are all promises that once broken change the level of trust someone has placed on you. Trust is broken by changing the belief system another person has about you.

Now, I know we have all broken promises. I have broken many promises, many times and it hurts me in the pit of my stomach when I realize I miserably failed so many times and have let so many people down. So this article is not from a guy that has never lost trust from people but about someone who realizes what happened and took steps to recover the trust I lost when I failed.

Let me say it again: You can regain the trust you lost. That is, if the other person has a good heart towards you. First, you need to accept four basic principles and then follow that understanding with massive ACTION to regain the trust from the person whose trust you betrayed.

FOUR PRINCIPLES

1. When you let someone down and betray their trust you have actually betrayed yourself first and foremost all. Further more, that’s the first person you must work with: YOURSELF! You must come to terms with your own failure, your own humanity. What happened? Why did it happen? Was an accident or is that a pattern of your character? Proud people stumble on this first one and simply can not do it!

2. When you let someone down and betray their trust you must acknowledge you did it and that will hurt your pride. If you are not ready to be humble and talk to the person whose trust you betrayed, you are not ready to regain trust from that person.

3. When you let someone down and betray their trust it’s going to take time and effort to recover it. It will not happen instantly. This is one of the greatest challenges “betrayers” face. They usually want to “just move on.” They want instant gratification. It just doesn’t happen that way!

4. When you let someone down and betray their trust, in spite of what you may do to regain their trust you should be ready to possibly be rejected and you may never regain the lost trust again. In that case it is out of your hands, even if it hurts! What kicks in here is character: you did the right thing and your heart is right. Move on being the good person you are!

FIVE STEPS TO REGAIN TRUST IN YOURSELF AND FROM OTHERS YOU HAVE BETRAYED

1. Admit your mistake or the way you hurt the other person

This is the most difficult step in re-building trust. Address the issue that caused the loss of trust head on. If it was you not cherishing your spouse, or treating your marriage as a sacred trust, or lying, or mistreating the other person, or not fulfilling a promise… whatever… address the issue and ask forgiveness. Asking forgiveness for some vague, stupid unrelated behavior will be considered by the offended person as one more step into the destruction of trust! It’s simply insulting. My recommendation? If you have betrayed someone’s trust, don’t talk to that person until you understand what you did wrong and you are ready to deal with it honestly. Admitting your mistake honestly is not something you do to “move on” with “your” life; it’s something you do to re-establish a broken relationship, to reconcile and regain that person’s trust, which is a big issue; regaining trust is not about “your” own selfish pain!

2. Change

Nothing rebuilds trust faster than doing what the other person will perceive as you having changed! Whatever you did to betray another person’s trust needs to be changed! This is a no brainer. You want to create a trusting environment with the person you betrayed. Share specifically what your plan of action is to regain that person’s trust. Ask that person to hold you accountable to your promised changes. Believe me, if you are being honest and the other person has a heart, he/she will love you for it. There is nothing more refreshing and affirming than to know that someone cares for you so much that they are willing to change what hurts you!

3. Share honest information

Information is power. This is the number one trust builder. Most situations I have faced where trust has been betrayed are directly connected to lack of communication, lack of information, lies and cover-up stories. If you are afraid, say so. If you made a wrong move, tell the truth. If you fail, admit to it. If you are guarding “privileged information” and your relationship depends on the other person knowing what’s going on, be brave and say it. Information makes the other person feel like “we are in this together.” Withholding information when it’s due to the other person is one of the most painful forms of betrayal. Be straightforward and honest. If you are trying to regain your spouse’s trust, open up about finances, time management, the people you meet, your appointments and your whereabouts. The more information you provide the better it is.

4. Share yourself with the other person as a team player not as a victim

A “win-win” situation is difficult to obtain when you have betrayed someone’s trust, but it is possible in time. Just remember one thing… The person you betrayed knows you and he/she will not accept external, superficial changes. That person is your worst and most vociferous critic because you hurt him/her, and you better know if you heart is changed or not before you play the “game.” What’s the classic statement of a victim? “I did it because…” A victim’s fingerprint is: BLAME, JUSTIFY AND EXPLAIN. A non-victim person assumes responsibility for his/her deed and seeks reconciliation with the other person because he/she needs him/her in a relationship.

5. Be consistent

If you betrayed your spouse’s trust, focus on being consistent and following steps 1-4 steadily. It may take more than one conversation. It may take time for the other person to observe you and realize that you are “walking the talk.” If you betrayed your bosses trust, focus on being consistent in building your trust level. The same applies to your children, relatives and friends. “Walking the talk” is what builds trust again.

Though the idea behind following these steps is to regain the trust of someone you betrayed or let down, ultimately, doing what’s right (admitting you’re wrong and CHANGING) is for your own sake and the core of your character. Good people don’t only do good things to get results. They also do the right thing because they know that at the end the greatest reward is looking at themselves in the mirror and knowing they are authentic and honest. That’s what brings the greatest happiness in this life and that’s what it means to live in The Life Zone!

If you are dealing with a tricky situation and you want to regain your spouse’s or children’s trust, be careful! Don’t rush into it, don’t postpone it forever, and don’t expose your “laundry” irresponsibly. That may be the beginning of your honest journey but the end of your relationship with that person forever. Irresponsible honesty hurts, responsible honesty heals! What’s the difference? You do it for the other person and considering the greater picture. Many times a person from the outside can help you with perspective, timing and the mode in which you will journey towards regaining lost trust. I can coach you on the best steps to regain trust without destroying what you have.

Harold J. Duarte-Bernhardt is co-founder of the “LIFE ZONE.” Harold is a consultant, a seminar speaker and a LIFE Motivational Coach. The “LIFE ZONE” is a resource and a coaching center for personal and spiritual growth committed to providing sound strategies for dynamic living and LIFE FITNESS. Harold believes that PAIN is the greatest window into the best life has to offer! PAIN is never pleasant, it’s never fun; but great people have always faced PAIN and difficult times before they found the key to a magnificent life. Harold resides in Southern California and is the father of four wonderful human beings!

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Make sure that what you say is what you’re saying

It takes a lot to hold back some of your opinions sometimes. But when you hold back something important, your partner will see it in your body language. It’s better to tell them what is upsetting you than for them to have to guess what you are trying to tell them – and potentially guessing wrong.

Become more predictable

It’s the sudden changes that can cause even the most calm and centered person to begin to question their partner. If you’re doing something that might be perceived as ‘out of your character,’ realize that you might be causing suspicion. Try to keep your habits and actions fairly predictable so that your partner can assume that everything is okay when your patterns remain the same.

Be open about changes that you are making

But it’s not fair to assume that you will be staying the same all of the time, so it’s best to let your partner know when you are making changes that might seem radical. Starting a new exercise program or changing your overall look might be something that you will want to warn them about – lest they think that you’re primping and preparing your appearance for someone else.

Believe in your partner

A little faith in your partner will go a long way. When you want to build trust in a relationship, you will want to trust your partner as well to make decisions that benefit your relationship as well as your well-being. It isn’t about thinking that your partner can do anything that they put their mind to, but it’s about having the courage to say that you support your partner no matter what they want in their life.

Communicate your needs

What you need will go a long way to showing your partner how much you trust them. By allowing them to see what makes you happy, you are becoming vulnerable to them and to their reactions. They might not like what you’ve decided, though they probably will appreciate the fact that you are telling them what you need from them. Trusting them to listen and to respect these needs will help the favor to be returned.

Be an open book

Keeping secrets is probably one of the worst things you can do for a relationship. You need to be as open as possible in your marriage in order to show that you have nothing to hide. When you’re open, your partner will also feel that they should be open enough to you as well. Small secrets are one thing – gifts, surprises – but when you start to keep some secrets, they might think that you’re hiding other things as well.

Be yourself

You married the person that you are with because of who they are. When they start to act differently, that might make you question what is going on with them. When you want to rebuild the trust in your relationship, try to remember that you don’t want to change or impress them, but you want to show them who you really are so that they can trust that person.

Have your own opinions

It’s interesting that many people believe that agreeing with everyone will make them seem more trustworthy. But like ‘yes men’ in business, those that always agree seem to be lying some of the time. There’s no need to disagree with others, but you should also have your own opinions once in a while.

Establish clear boundaries

Set up boundaries that might allow you to feel more trustful. If your spouse or partner is away, you might establish rules for talking to other women or let them know things that might make you uncomfortable. Share what you need to feel secure in your relationship and ask them to do the same.

Don’t be afraid of success

Realize that you can have an open and honest relationship – it’s not impossible. Too many people dismiss the idea entirely and always look for things to be wrong – however, this leads to distrust as well.

Communicate often

Take the time to talk with each other frequently so that you both know where the other one is at. This will allow you to feel as though there is nothing that you’re not communicating to the other.

Take responsibility

If you keep a secret or lie, take responsibility for your blunder. People make mistakes, but owning up to them makes you better for it.

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Case building is the first choice we are faced with in communication. It is deciding whether we want to build a case against somebody by gathering evidence to be used against them, or whether we want to build a connection with them.

Story telling is when we tell ourselves a story about an observation — and then believe it. We see our lover come to bed with flannel pajamas on, decide they must not want to be intimate (and no longer find us attractive) and then begin pouting about it without ever checking out the reality.

The third mistake is Message Assuming – that is, assuming that the person we are talking to actually understands our message in the way that we intended. Or that we understood theirs. We talk and talk, trying to explain ourselves, yet never check that the other person understands us.

The fourth mistake is Cup Stuffing. This is trying to get somebody to listen or do something for you when they are already in overwhelm – their cup is full with all the challenges of the day. The baby is crying, dinner has to be cooked, the kids need your help, and the boss is calling from work–and now you want me to listen to your problems?

When people are in need of empathy themselves (empathy is the process of listening, understanding and feeding back what they heard) they are unable to hear what we are saying. It’s not until we give them some empathy for their feelings and needs that they will be able to hear us.

Paul and I run into this a lot when I get home from school. We both have full cups from our busy days and if one of us tries to stuff more into the other’s cup – stuffing things like problems that crept up in the software, emotional upsets with co-workers or students – then we end up with two very snitty and unhappy people.

The answer? Learning to give empathy to the other before unloading our own issues.mAnd how does one do this? Through the Language of Peace. The Language of Peace is the process of giving and receiving empathy.

The Language of Peace, based on Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication has four distinct steps that help people connect in a heart-felt process:

- state the observation, “When you saw the trash still in the kitchen after asking 3 times…”

- then find the feeling by ask, “Were you feeling frustrated…?”

- then find the need …”because you’re needing some cooperation and support?”

- then ending by making a request. The most useful request is to ask, “Would you mind telling me what you heard me say?”

That way you’ll know if you really understood what was going on for them… and sometimes… just saying the words that connect their feelings and needs can be incredibly soothing to the person receiving empathy.

Here’s an assignment: the next time you get together with your beloved, a friend, or somebody in your family, ask them…

“Tell me what has been making your life less than wonderful these days?”

Then follow the steps of the Language of Peace.

It would sound like this: “So, when you loaned your sister the money to get her car fixed and she spent it on a new skirt, were you feeling a little frustrated and disappointed because you have a need for honesty and for the safety of the people you love?”

Not understanding these mistakes can cost you the love of the people most important to you. We’ve worked with parents who haven’t talked to their grown kids for years over a misunderstanding – siblings who no longer talk after a disagreement – and of course divorcees… whose relationships didn’t need to end, but who didn’t have the communication tools to make it through.

This is not just a ‘little report’. This an opening to a communication process that can help you avoid some of the most painful, intimacy-destroying, relationship-wrecking communication mistakes around (I know… I’ve tried all of them!)

I realize that even with my great and wonderful teaching skills it will take more than one read-through to really make these skills your own. Read this several times. Print it out, read it out loud with your spouse before going to bed, and when you wake up. Take it on your vacation to remind yourself what you really want from your relationship and what you want to avoid….

If you would like more information on how to identify and avoid any of the 5 relationship-wrecking mistakes, you get more information at our web-site, including audio interviews that take you step-by-step through the process.

Good luck on your grand adventure. We would love to hear your success stories on how you applied these communication principles.

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A relationship without trust is in trouble. Trust could be lost by an affair or any of a number of other reasons. This article will give you some ideas on how to rebuild trust in a relationship.

You have to understand that true trust is something that is developed over time, but lost in an instant. It therefore can take quite some period of time to rebuild trust. Do not despair or give up, just work diligently toward it.

If trust was broken by an affair, the marriage can survive and many do. The first thing to do in the case of an affair is, of course, to completely end the affair and all contact with the other person. If that means changing jobs or moving, do it.

As for specifically how to rebuild trust in a relationship:

1) The best definition of truth I have heard is when the word and the deed are one. Say what you will do and do it. Never say you did not do something if you did it. If you promise to be somewhere at a given time either be there or at least call to announce any delay.

2) Complete honesty is a must. Lies just are not going to work. The less you lie the less you have to remember! Tell the truth to your partner and that will encourage him or her to be truthful with you. This helps begin the trust rebuilding.

3) Do not try to keep secrets. In a brand new relationship there are things you would be wise not to share, but in a marriage or long term relationship that is just not the case. If the secret comes out from a source other than you the rebuilding of trust is jeopardized.

4) Show some faith in your partner and your relationship. This might require a little stretching on your part, but if you act suspicious of your partner you encourage them to be suspicious of you. That kind of relationship is no fun.

5) Understand that there will be bumps in the road, that is normal. Never make a mountain out of a mole hill, discuss concerns or problems and get everything out in the open. Be reasonable with your partner and not make unfair demands.

6) Always be courteous in your speech with your partner. Nagging about anything is a real drag on a relationship. If he or she promised to do something and did not, mention it and ask for it to be done, but do so firmly and politely wi
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7) Expect yourself to do what is right. Give yourself credit where due and simply acknowledge weaknesses with a commitment to work on them.

Relationships require trust between the two parties. Do not expect miracles over night, but work toward trust on a daily basis.

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SAN FRANCISCO – IBM Corp. put a top executive on leave Monday after he was charged in an insider trading scandal for allegedly leaking secrets about IBM’s earnings and financial dealings with corporate partners.

The company said Robert Moffat, a senior vice-president and cost-cutting maven who was considered a possible candidate to succeed CEO Sam Palmisano, no longer serves as an officer of the company.

A woman who answered the phone at Moffat’s home in Connecticut said he would not comment. Kerry Lawrence, an attorney representing Moffat, said the government hasn’t accused Moffat of profiting from the alleged scheme.

“Not only have they not alleged that, but that definitely did not happen,” Lawrence said.

Rodney Adkins, who has been senior vice-president in charge of development and manufacturing, was tapped to assume Moffat’s position on an acting basis. That gives him oversight over IBM’s mainframes and computer servers.

Adkins is the highest-ranking black executive IBM has ever had.

Moffat was one of six executives and hedge fund managers arrested Friday in connection with a wide-ranging scam that authorities say generated more than $25 million in illegal profits.

The bust ensnared one of America’s wealthiest men, Raj Rajaratnam, a portfolio manager for the Galleon Group hedge fund; two people from another hedge fund; and figures from chip maker Intel Corp. and consulting firm McKinsey&Co.

The hedge fund defendants are accused of trading securities in several publicly traded companies based on confidential information they got from the executives.

Moffat’s arrest is a rare stain on the reputation of IBM, which promotes “trust in all relationships” as one of its key values.

Moffat, a college track star who has worked at IBM since 1978, is known as an operational expert who has worked in some of IBM’s toughest divisions trying to unlock more profit. That included the personal computer business, which IBM sold in 2004 to China-based Lenovo Group. IBM has trumpeted Moffat’s ability to slash costs and make the company faster and more efficient, particularly in manufacturing.

Moffat, 53, is accused of supplying Danielle Chiesi, who worked for a hedge fund known as New Castle, details about IBM’s earnings; the timing of a restructuring at IBM partner Advanced Micro Devices Inc.; and the financials of Sun Microsystems Inc., whose books IBM was poring over this year as part of an acquisition bid.

It’s unclear from the court filings how Moffat would have benefited. Lawrence, Moffat’s lawyer, declined to comment further on the case.

His arrest comes after a tough stretch for IBM, which is based in Armonk, N.Y.

Two weeks ago the company acknowledged that the U.S. Justice Department is looking into allegations the company abused its dominant position in mainframe computers, one of IBM’s most important products. And last week the company reported higher quarterly profit and boosted its 2009 earnings forecast, but the stock fell. The shares had already appreciated significantly, and some investors were apparently expecting more from the results.

Intel, the world’s largest maker of computer microprocessors, said it was blindsided by the arrest of its employee, Rajiv Goel, 51, a director of strategic investment in Intel’s treasury department. Intel spokesman Chuck Mulloy said the company hasn’t been contacted by law enforcement.

Goel, who has been placed on leave, declined to comment.

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What motivates them to do so? People of both genders are known to have extramarital affairs, but the circumstances that drive men into infidelity are different from those that turn women unfaithful.

Is the Woman Responsible for Spousal Extramarital Affairs?

When apprehended, an adulterous man stoutly denies the affair or blames his spouse for driving him into committing such an act. Do women really drive their men into extra marital affairs? Some people agree that men are driven into seeking love outside marital boundaries, when it is non-existent in their marriage. Their spouse can partly be blamed for the loveless marriage.

Love and affection are vital not only for the survival of a relationship but also for making human existence happy. When it is repudiated, these lonely people stray outside marital confines seeking self-validation.

Denial of Love Makes a Man Vulnerable

Denial of spousal love makes people feel worthless and rejected and these feelings commonly turn them defenceless and they turn infidel.

Though marital unhappiness makes people susceptible, it is wrong to believe that every infidel person emerges from an unhappy home. Quite a few happily married men are also adulterous. It is individual thinking that makes them so. Men tend to draw a strict demarcating line between love and sex. Though they love their wife, they engage in illicit relationships to spice up life. Basically, it’s the cultural upbringing that determines whether adultery is perceived to be wrong or accepted.

Upbringing and Individual Attitude

Men are known to stray more than women in patriarchal households where the philandering men in the family are responsible for nurturing generations of infidel men down the line. The socio-economic conditions at the home front have a deep impact on the attitudes of the family members. It is heredity in such a lineage, to be strict with the women and encourage men to turn adventurous. As infidelity is forbidden by society and religion, the prohibition incites these adventurous men. The associated excitement of it makes adultery desirable.

These could be the general reasons that promote adultery. However, it is not right to blame anyone, and infidelity is usually individual responsibility.

Infidel Individual at Places of Work

Individuals, holding liberal views on adultery, are more inclined to have affairs in the office. Attraction between men and women is common while working in close proximity. If the physical relationship is followed by emotional attachment, the alliance turns stronger than the marital bond.

Once the extramarital relationship proves pleasurable and goes unnoticed by family, the man begins craving for more of such experiences. Such an excitement induces changes in the brain chemistry that makes adultery addictive. Addiction to adultery then becomes a problem that has to be handled by professional experts. However, it is not the work place alone where extramarital liaisons are developed; affairs can be developed at home too.

Online Affairs Developed at Home

In families where both the spouses are working, the wife spends all her free time with the children. The subsequent lack of attention induces the man to engage in other activities. It is at such leisure times that online relationships get developed. (Cyber affairs are alluring for the secrecy and privacy they offer.)

Developments of such affairs are usually accidental. Though the people concerned lack physical contact, they are deeply attached to their online partner. Such emotional bonding gives rise to intense crisis in the family. The good news is that, after enduring such distressing circumstances, marriages are turning stronger. The spouse of the infidel person wakes up and pays attention to marital problems by redressing them with remedial measures.

‘Adultery’ in a marriage, is a complex issue. Reasons as to what drives spouses to become unfaithful vary greatly and the factors leading to it differ according to gender. 9 out of 10 people disapprove infidelity, yet more than 3 out of 10 men develop extramarital relationships. Human heart is designed to love, and adultery is an offshoot of this characteristic.

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I have survived something I never thought would ever happen to me and lo and behold, we are still together. Things are not super great, but I believe a marriage is something you fight for. I am traditional when it comes to that. Do you think someone can live through infidelity in marriage? My wife told me she married too young and that I am more of a friend that anything else. I gave my heart to her, but I do not want to be trampled over too. It seems in this world divorces are so common. I know my marriage has problems, but is there really a perfect union out there?

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When anyone talks about cheating and infidelity, what comes to mind is usually about your partner behaving intimately with another individual of the opposite sex, such as kissing, cuddling and having sex. What about emotional infidelity? With the convenience of online chat and online dating sites, it is not difficult for anyone to get emotional involved on cyberspace, so does that count as infidelity too? Definitely! You are talking about a cheating spouse regardless of whether sex is involved because being in a relationship with someone means you share a special bond with him/her and it is not just physical involvement.

When you are seriously involved in a relationship with someone, it is more than simply getting physically involved. You share your innermost thoughts, feelings and your soul with that special someone you have bonded with. As such, emotional infidelity is just as devastating or even more devastating than physical infidelity.

If you have a cheating spouse who is emotionally involved with another person, you can be share that he/she will not be as involved with you as before. Your spouse has taken away the attention and time rightfully meant for you for someone else. This sharing of bond with another person is emotional infidelity.

Instead of being the only friend and confidant to your partner, you have now become a stranger because your significant other has decided to share himself with someone else. You will start to experience freezing out which can be as devastating as having caught your spouse sleeping with someone else! Some might even start to blame themselves for the problems.

If you suspect that you have a cheating spouse who is emotional involved with someone else, just remember that it takes two hands to clap; it is not entirely your fault that he / she had start to stray. One problem that you might face is that emotional infidelity is not easy to catch because there might not be anything physical going on yet, though it might lead to sexual infidelity if not checked in time. It will also be very hard for you to gather evidence.

If you do indeed suspect that your partner is emotional infidel to you, the first sign to look out for is a sense of guilt. Take note not to jump the gun as it is
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normal for everyone to have friends of the opposite sex so it does not mean that just because your partner is talking a bit more to one person of the opposite sex or confide in that person, he must be emotional infidel to you! You will only become paranoid and might even jeopardize your marriage if you become overly suspicious!

If you found that your partner is deliberately hiding his/her relationship with a special someone, you should be more conscious of what is going on. If their relationship is innocent, then there should not be anything to hide about. However, if your spouse is emotional infidel, he/she will not want to tell you about his friendship with that person.

As mentioned earlier, emotional infidelity will most definitely lead to physical infidelity so if possible, stop your cheating spouse’s deeds before it get out of hand! Catching emotional infidelity is easier than when it has already developed into something more than that.

Beside a sense of guilt, becoming secretive, distant or even hostile towards you are all signs of a straying spouse. Look out also for suspicious emails, phone calls or text messages. It might not be easy to catch emotional infidelity but it can help you to fix problems early before things get out of hand. Be alert if your sixth sense tells you that something is not right and you might be able to stop your cheating spouse from straying before it’s too late.

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NEW YORK – Single folks in New York are often the stuff of American musical theater.

From “On the Town” to “Wonderful Town” to “Company” to “Rent” to “Avenue Q,” young _ and sometimes not so young _ people grappling with life in the big city have been ready fodder for song.

And they are the driving force behind the modestly titled “Ordinary Days,” the first musical to play the Roundabout Theater Company’s tiny Black Box space as part of its Underground series.

The four-character show, with tinkly melodies and sprightly lyrics by newcomer Adam Gwon, is an unassuming little musical. It’s earnest yet often entertaining, particularly when dealing with the complications afflicting an unhappy graduate student (Kate Wetherhead) who has had the misfortune to lose her thesis somewhere in the bad, bustling metropolis. And, of course, she doesn’t have another copy. OK, you have to stretch the show’s credibility at that point.

Wetherhead has a quirky, offbeat stage presence perfectly suited for this aggressively neurotic young woman, a person quick to form opinions and not shy about expressing them either.

Her notebook is found by a genial, sad-sack young man (a delightful Jared Gertner) who struggles to survive by passing out flyers and baby-sitting the cat of a famous downtown artist. And through e-mail (the young woman’s Web address was on her paper), the two make plans to meet at the Metropolitan Museum of Art.

Their relationship occupies one half of the 80-minute musical, alternating with a second twosome. The other, slightly older couple, played by Hunter Foster and Lisa Brescia, have commitment issues, especially after they decide to move in together _ and the squabbling begins. Their dilemma is more conventional, but both performers have such definite personalities that they surmount the predictability of Gwon’s take on them.

There is one wisp of a surprise in why this woman can’t cement their partnership, and it’s a bit of unexpected poignancy surfacing right before the evening comes to a close.

Director Marc Bruni has paced the show well. It moves at a steady, unrushed pace, played out against a backdrop of brightly lighted squares that change color as frequently as the characters’ emotions in this slight slice of big-city life.

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We have a responsibility to manage our own tendencies. When you are not in control of your emotions, you are out of control. The result is stress – the underlying cause of up to 80 percent of all chronic diseases. On the contrary, a deep belly laugh can give your immune system a big boost!

It is not surprising that happily married couples live healthier and longer lives on average compared to single, unmarried people. Aside from the emotional security and fulfillment that comes from a committed marriage, partners reap the regenerative benefits of sexual intimacy. Studies reveal that sexually active seniors are the happiest men and women in any age group.

This article offers tips for building harmonious relationships which will ultimately promote longevity:

1 – Love can unclog arteries. Accepting love and loving unconditionally makes your life not only meaningful but healthy. Studies show that tender, loving care reduces atherosclerosis and the risk of heart attack. Even watching films about love has been shown to increase levels of immunoglobulin-IGA, the first line of defense against flu and cold viruses.

2 – Rx for aging: an active sex life. The majority of seniors experience a drop in the frequency of sexual activity as they age. Because of this, they miss out on nature’s secret fountain of youth – healthy sexual activity. It can raise the levels of substances that lengthen your life span like growth hormone, endorphins, and DHEA; and lower the levels of substances that can shorten it, such as the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol. Sexually active seniors are generally happier. Indeed, fulfilling sexuality not only improves the quality but the quantity of your years!

3 – Loving family equates to a longer life. People who enjoy happy family lives tend to have less illness and a longer life span. A good family relationship does not come automatically, but it is well worth the effort to build and maintain one. Investing in your relationships can pay dividends in a life rich in love, respect and a sense of belonging.

4 – Become a good neighbor. Neighbors are an important part of your supportive community. There are lots of patients whose lives were increased dramatically by their neighbors who came into their aid in times of need. Neighbors are like an extended family, providing friendship to help you avert loneliness and isolation, promoting a longer and happier life.

5 – Simple living and self reliance. These are marks of all centenarians. A Chinese sage once said: Modesty brings contentment, and all things grow well in the absence of complexity and clutter. Self-reliance is power. Centenarians all led simple, self-reliant, clean lives with little or no extravagance. They are frugal, getting the most from the least amount of resources.

Your relationships and personal faith are the hidden elixirs of longevity.

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